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June 28th, 2008
02:41 am
I'm sort of in love with fannish fundraisers right now. That our love of porn manages to unite women to do good is just fucking fabulous, you know? Except I think we're doing it rong. To really raise some megabucks what we need to get The Great Unfinished Wips (tm) onto the block. Instead of bidding against each other, bid together - say, all the people who have over the years just wished CM Decarnin would finish "Intreat thee not to leave me" offer up moola for cause X for chapters 4,5, & 6- seriously? I be we'd raise real money. I know I have cash on that one. There are hundreds of fannish never gonna happens that could become dones - and done for great causes.
Just a thought.
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May 28th, 2008
06:06 pm - OMFG Australia
A ROADSIDE toilet stop ended in pain, embarrassment and almost death for a tourist when a highly venomous snake bit the end of his penis.
The deadly brown snake slithered between his legs and lunged at his manhood as he crouched on a roadside near Laura, 300km northwest of Cairns, about a month ago.
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May 12th, 2008
10:38 am
Aaaaand LJ is once again demonstrating the, "meet the new boss - s/he's the same as the old boss" truism.
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May 7th, 2008
09:49 pm - WTF FANDOM
God, you know - I shouldn't have to say this, but calling someone a N****** is not ok.
NO, really.
But apparently I DO have to say it, because ![[info]](http://p-stat.livejournal.com/img/userinfo.gif) joehundredaire, one of the mods of Twisting the Hellmouth archive is hella proud of having called someone a N*****.
Luckily for joe, he seems to have a cohort of painfully stupid friends who want to argue that a) since black people use N**** its A+ b) that since they're lesbians they're oppressed too, and WHY AREN'T YOU ANGRY ABOUT THAT c) that its NOT bad because he doesn't mean it in a racist way, and anyway the person he called a N***** DESERVED IT.
Because I use Kingley as my avatar, this braintrust assumed I was a black man, and it took them all of 5 minutes for joe to make a post calling me a sexist, homophobic, N*****. Which I'm taking as a compliment from this group.
What the fucking fuck people. Like seriously, are you really THAT ignorant?
This sort of hate speech weakens our entire community. Every time one of this little yucks pulls this shit it's OUR responsibility to step up and say, NO that isn't acceptable. Because if we don't, they get away with this again and again. Each time they do becomes another layer of: oh well it's not my problem/I don't want to get involved/well, everyone must know they're idiots, and they're strengthened. They add to the history of getting away with it.
It's our responsibility to stand up and say OH HELL NO. That said, Jesusfuck, who ARE these people?!"
Joe posted an INCREDIBLY offensive post (screencapped below - he's since removed it) calling me and several other people N*****
ETA there are some triggar-y comments in this post that I'm leaving up until abuse responds to my complaint. The people on that link have apparently decided I'm a black man and are dropping the N bomb pretty indiscriminately.
AND apparently the dumbass hasn't heard of screenshots. http://i220.photobucket.com/albums/dd41/Oulangi/Picture2.png
ETA 2 Woke up this morning and they'd deleted the entire argument - which was basically a laundry list of racist stereotyping and typically asshole responses on their part - and me saying, look THIS is racist and its NOT OK over and over.
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May 5th, 2008
02:08 pm - Reviews are often Spoilery.
Aaarg. Insane journal isn't opening, so these are To Be Continued...
( SSHP Prophet April 30 - May 3 )
( my rating system )
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May 2nd, 2008
12:16 am - Drunk ramblings...
I am drinking wine and listening to the ocean on my iPod, so generally zen. Chatting with Murklins about wine and whatnot - and well, HOW fucking fabulous would it be to have a fan con in Napa? Like, I don't even care WHAT fandom, I'd join, just to do our con there.
Think of the panel choices: character X: Y U RAPEZ -or- a tour of cellar X
We'd all be stumbling around, happy as can be, it would be a weekend of fan love. With wine. lotsa wine.
I LOVE THIS IDEA.
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April 22nd, 2008
11:29 pm - Bad dog, no cookie
I wasn’t going to write about this. Mostly because I believe that the post was at least partly motivated by theferrett’s continued quest for to be famous on teh intaerwebs, and I don’t believe in rewarding bad-dog behavior. I've made that mistake with real dogs before. I get amused or charmed by brattiness, only to find the dog won't listen to me and is peeing on the floor.
A lot of very clever people have written things that resonate with me, most of which comes down to keep your rules/laws/hands off my body. I’m not getting into that, because frankly it should be so fucking obvious to anyone that a woman’s body is her own, and NO you really really don’t get to co-opt it for wank fantasy/social experiment of fail, and when you do you’re no better than any other man who has used his privilege, his power, his brute strength to keep a woman down.
No, really.
And I think this is where theferrett's brain malfunctioned (I mean aside from the obvious), because it’s clear reading his blog that he thinks of himself as an ally of women.
The problem with identifying yourself as an ally or a “good guy” (and as a white woman interested in racism/social justice I do get this) is the danger of developing a blind spot to your own privilege. That’s what I see happening here. theferrett sees himself as an ally; therefore it is impossible that he would/could participate in something demeaning or harmful to women.
That’s a mighty comfortable place to live, isn’t it?
So what the hell am I talking about? The lolcat (minus actual lolcats, cause LAZY) version could be summarized like this:
theferrett: ZOMG Boobie groping for grate empowerment
Wimmin: huh wut?
theferrett: Boobies!!!
Wimmin: dude, you’re objectification is not revolutionary and it’s not OK.
theferrett: UR interrogating my sexist bullshit boobage groping from the wrong perspective!
Wimmin: How are you an asshat? Let me list the ways…
Mrs.Theferrett: well, I’M a woman and I’M OK with it, therefore it’s TOTES feminism
theferrett: See??? A woman thought it was OK therefore boobie groping is totes feminist empowerment
Wimmin: and we’re still counting…
See, you know what? That easy dismissal of women’s concern about their safety because they don’t see the magicbeautyjoyjoy of your boob groping fits the definition of male privilege. And it isn’t any less oppressive or sexist when wielded by an “ally” or a “good guy”.
Oh, and while we’re on the topic of dumb privilege arguments; just because a token women/minority will argue for your idiocy does not mean that a) you’re any less of an asshat, or b) that you get a free pass for being an asshat. Seriously. You’re like half a step from “some of my best friends are …” so cut that shit out.
So I keep reading that bit in the middle, the part when woman after woman was saying UM NO, and theferrett and his boy-os were insisting that they just didn’t get it – it reminds me more and more of that evil smirk my dog would give me before he's piss all over the living room. Remarkably theferrett has maintained his utter cluelessness and written YET MOAR about how boob groping should only be practiced among small groups because other fanboys – you know, those real mouth-breathers – will take this beautiful, amazing, powerful thing (that you nay-sayers STILL just don’t understand, but here – let my wife/token woman defend it moar) and make it something perverse and dirty, STILL doesn’t get that he’s actually part of the problem.
That he isn’t an ally or a good guy here.
I feel myself itching to roll up a newspaper or grab their necks and rub their noses in the giant puddle* they’re making. But what the hell would the point be? The jolly great thing about privilege is they gets to go on peeing on the carpet and ignoring the rest of us.
This grand new experiment was about the commoditization of women’s bodies. That isn’t revolutionary (at least, not to a lot of women. Fanboy mileage may vary), nor is it a particularly interesting idea. In fact it’s pretty much the same idea that men have been selling to women for a good long time.
*Please note that I am 100% opposed to rubbing a dog’s nose in urine. The technique doesn’t work, it’s needlessly cruel and sadistic, and just causes the animal stress. However those objections do NOT carry over to being against rubbing men’s noses in urine. In fact, I wholeheartedly support the rubbing of mens noses in urine, be it for fun or profit.
edit There's a great round up of links here
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11:59 am
I took that personality test floating around. I had like zero of the red neurotic bar, and 90+ on both "Open to experience" and "extraversion". This seems both suspicious and improbable, so I decided NOT to post the results because I'm secretly convinced it proves something unpleasant, and also because I now feel a bizarre compulsion to prove I AM TOO neurotic. Sadly, I think this is less about neurotic that simply feeling ornery and contrarian this morning. OMFG that's pathetic.
Annnywaaaay.
My phone voicemail is completely full. I don't want to listen to all the messages, mostly because I know 90% of them are from one of two friends; Meliss or Loo, and while I dearly LOVE both of them, they are incapable of calling without leaving a message. So they'll say stuff like, "OH HAI I called you..." which, yeah thanks I DO have caller ID. If it's that effing important, send a txt. I know it's the height of laziness, but if I see their names on the ID and have a message I just can't be bothered to call my mailbox and delete their endless "oh HAI's". So yeah, my mailbox is full, has been for a week and I really don't want to unclog it. At least now they can't leave messages.
On the other hand, because my mailbox is full, another of my dearest friends texted me to let me know she may be moving back to Hollywood. She moved to Long Beach 4 years ago with a guy and we sort of lost contact. Part of that was her coupling - you know how it is, even when you don't mean to when women move in with their BF's, they do "couple" stuff and have less time for oggling firemen with their girlfriends. Plus, it's a fact of LA that when you move to Long Beach, Northridge or the OC you basically cease to exist. I mean, you'll talk on the phone once in a great while to the people in the city, but it's like you moved to Mongolia.
I'm working out the summer travel. I'm doing Chicago - I'm considering Dallas, and I guess I'm going to Boston this June. My mom wants me to visit as well - and I should. But sometimes that visit is alot like cleaning out my voice mailbox, you know?
I'm also trying to get my lazy ass off the computer and go to Yoga. I'm making a list of great reasons to go in an attempt to motivate myself. So far sofa 3, yoga -1.
>>>In other news, I missed the great breast grope debate (really? we're debating this?!). I was just about to go and read it and poof, gone. I would have gotten to it earlier if I'd thought theferret was going to be a weenie and delete the comments.
:/
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April 6th, 2008
01:59 pm - Thank you
Clifton jr's funeral was yesterday, and I had a chance to speak with Clifton Sr. When I told him what you, my flist had done, by taking an interest in his tragedy and writing the DA here in Los Angeles he was absolutely floored. So thank you everyone, from me, from Clifton's family. <3
The DA IS going to offer a reward in this case, they're announcing on Tuesday. If you feel so inclined, writing the DA again would be a good way to let them know people everywhere care about equal justice. Contact info is on my last post.
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March 31st, 2008
10:23 am - I don't usually do this
Dear flist,
If you can, please, please, consider contacting the LA District Attorney and asking them to offer a reward to catch the killers of Clifton Hibbart jr., and his friend, Kenneth Patterson. Clifton was the son of a friend and just one of those bright spots in the universe people.
Clifton was a college student, two weeks away from graduation. He and Kenneth were at a house party, where Kenneth got into a fight with another person. That person drew a gun, and the home owner broke up the party and sent everyone home.
Kenneth and Clifton left, heading to the home of a friend where they were spending the night. They were both shot in the head steps away from safety.
Here is the news coverage of his murder:
http://www.latimes.com/news/local/la-me-dead30mar30,1,3137566.story
http://ktla.trb.com/news/ktla-doublehomicide,0,1725695.story
The family is asking for the DA to offer a reward and raise the profile of this case. The fear is that because this is black on black violence it will be swept into the "gangs will be gangs" category and forgotten. Really the only way to stop this is to show the DA that enough people care about this case that they *MUST* not allow that to happen.
So again, if you can, please contact the LA DA office.
Here is the link to the contact page:
http://da.co.la.ca.us/feedback.htm
There is a feedback form, an email addy: webmail@da.lacounty.gov, and phone numbers: Telephone (213) 974-3512 * Fax (213) 974-1484 * TTY (800) 457-7778 (8:30am - 5:00pm M-F)
This is what I wrote. Take as much or as little as you want if you contact the DA:
PLEASE offer a reward to find the killer(s) of these two young men. They represented something bright and hopeful for our entire city that was snatched away from us by the evil hopelessness of gang violence. There has been too much of our best and brightest being destroyed.
We people who live here every day need to know that the city takes this loss seriously. We need to know that finding the killers of our futures is a priority to the DA and to the police. PLEASE raise the profile of this case, and PLEASE offer a reward. These families deserve whatever justice can be found in this tragedy. Our city deserves no less.
Thank you <3
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March 21st, 2008
March 19th, 2008
March 12th, 2008
10:51 am - Escapade, or why you should go next year!
During the Escapade review the con organizers asked what they could do to bring more (and new) fans to their con. I'm not sure I'm the right person to answer that. Even though I did enjoy myself, part of me realizes that in part Escapade is a con that is Not For Me. What I enjoy about Escapade is that the panels are meaty - this isn't an HP con where someone reads their paper aloud. I like the people who attend because I can have thinky thoughts on random fandom without getting odd looks. I like Escapade because no one questioned that this:( Read more... )
was in my presentation.
But what I REALLY liked? Escapade was on the beach over looking a surf spot.
Wait, let me give you a moment to fully appreciate a hotel full of slashy fangirls on balconies oggling surfer boys. In fact, maybe it's better if I show you a picture:( Read more... )
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March 8th, 2008
07:23 am - Escapade con report, day one
Well, actually day two. Apparently the con started yesterday. Who knew?
Arrived 5:30ish by train. I got delayed 2 feet out of the train station - literally right in front of the hotel and unable to debark. uhg, I sound like a yappy puppy about to have a "procedure". Unbark? eh... couldn't get off
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um no. that sounds even worse. Nevermind.
Prior to coming I signed up for the Crowne Plaza's hotel club card. I did it for the free buffet breakfast - which hotel prices being what they are saved me $18 per day. They also upgraded me to a jr. Suite - SWEET! I highly recommend signing up for hotel clubs to any con goers - depending on the hotel you get free breakfast for the duration of your stay, or access to the "hospitality lounge" which often has free snacks / non-alcoholic beverages, and whatnot.
After disembarking from the train I hunted through my clothes and found something notblack - grey, hooray! Alas the very first thing someone said about my wardrobe was, "Oh I see what you mean about your clothes" which HEY! I had on blue jeans and NO PURPLE. I TRIED, DAMNIT. Went down to the lobby and met the HP group - um, Meri, Beth, tree, Wyomingnot, elfwreck, adbaculum cordelia_v, sktkpr, slashpine, wandlimb, hazelhawthorn, kassrachel and more people -- I get bad with new names -- getting ready to walk down to Erik Eriksons for dinner. We ate there last year, so I might just link my description of the food from then - also I took piccies then, and the place hasn't really changed. Well, different people, but otherwise - you know.
Beth and I discussed our presentation for today. I was sort of relieved that I was the prepared one - at least, I wrote some rough notes in the train so I could fake my way through having done my homework. Being a teacher-type, I'm pretty sure Beth knew I was winging it, but as she hadn't done her homework there was no scolding to be done. *\o/*
After dinner we went up to my room for cocktails, then down to the con gathering which we all independently sort looked around and went, "OK this is lame" and went back to my room. Had an informal room party & ended passing out to the sounds of ocean and Wyomingnot cleaning up my room. Which AWESOME, thank you SO MUCH! You can come to any party I have EVER.
This morning I have to finish building the power-point and I should probably check into the con and get my badge. Yeah, that would be good :)
And maybe finish the notes for the presentation. Cordelia - who I REALLY want to call Cordy just because I <3 Buffy & Angel - was nice enough to look over my notes. I asked her to because Beth looked over what I wrote and is going to counter all my points, so I figured I needed *something* more so I don't sit there catching flies with my mouth while she sounds like a smarty-pants. Unfortunately the notes I made were more about my foundation / premise FOR the conversation and hadn't actually got to the topic yet. Luckily I have Plan B - I'm bringing vodka to the presentation and intend to give everyone a shot before we start. That way Beth and I will be the sober/smrt sounding ones regardless of content. And when that fails, LOLCATS!
I probably should get out of bed now.
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February 26th, 2008
11:41 pm - Escapade part 2
So I'm booked. Fabulous. Now the question is room party?
Anyone who knows me knows that's hardly a question - so what I'm really asking is how far out should I go? I'm taking the train, so carrying too much crap with me will be an issue. I'll bring a bar - but I also have a jockybox (the size and appearance of a cooler) and I could get a keg for under $50. But traveling by train this doesn't seem practical - soooo no. Fuckit I have awsome free booze, I'll bring my fab light and maybe a cauldron or two.
So question - and as I'm a free user on LJ now its not a poll, sorry
So instead I bring you: Oula's cheap-ass not-poll.
Answer in comments. Results viewable to whomever.
1. PAAARTAAAY
Yes.
No.
what?
ticky (ok just effen pretend, k?)
2. When?
Friday night after the dueling dinners.
Saturday after the vids
Why designate a day? I plan on spending the weekend wearing a lampshade.
GIVE ME MY TICKYS YOU WENCH
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January 30th, 2008
10:46 pm - Liverjournal: still thinking about the children.
So you know that snap shot feature on lj? You know, that little TV symbol next to certain links that allows you to see the link without actually clicking through? The one that it was speculated was the reason behind LJ's No linking to inappropriate content rule?
Well mine has these adverts on the bottom. It's a string of "related search terms" - presumably at some point sponsors will come in and buy that space, and clicking on those links will lead you to their crap. That's fine - I mean yes, I dispair at at LJ's endless encroaching advertising whoring, but it's hardly surprising. What is surprising however, given El Jay's Flag a Journal and protect a child stance is the actual words coming up. When I hover over a friends pic of a biopsy, Snapshot informs me that "Naked Ass" "Dirty Whores" "pussies" and "The Hobbit" are related search terms. My link to the fug girls also gets a dirty whore and pussy mention, along with Gerard Butler and Lacoste.
I'm sure Lacoste is thrilled by that product placement.
It only works on about half my links, I have no idea if it's true for anyone else - but I find it an hysterically funny glitch in ElJays Brave new Save teh Children internets.
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January 22nd, 2008
04:20 pm
Well *someone* is doing well on their deadpool pick. Morbid curiosity and googlefu found this:
http://juniahneiva.com/redtulip_project.html
Which is, I'm almost certain, the apartment where Heath Ledger died. There's even a picture of the bedroom.
Oh internets, you share so much :(
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January 12th, 2008
09:40 am - Wizrockia DJ
Last night Tasha, Quinn and I went to hear Carlos from Dobby and the House Elves spin at a bar in Beverly Hills. It's been a weirdly WizRock sort of week for me; Monday (or was it tuesday?) I met up with them to see Alex/The Remus Lupins at the Knitting factory, then we hung out at Carlos's house and watched season 4 of Angel and Real Genius.
Still one of the best 80's movies out there, and one of the few movies with Val Kilmer that doesn't make me cringe. But anyway.
I've never counted myself as a real fan of WizRock, but I have to admit, it was FUN. But the DJing - that was AMAZING. Carlos mixes from Harry and the Potters to Berlin's Metro, his focus was new wave and 80's dance mixes and of course Wizard Rock. Angelinos who are old enough will remember DJ Mike Messex from Cherry - it was like THAT, only , yanno, all of a sudden the songs about my dad being rich and yours being dead.
I LOVED IT.
So, open invite to Angelenos 21+:
We're going again this Friday. Come along! Think of it as a meet-up only with awesome music and liquor.
WHEN: FRIDAY January 18th 10:30 pm
WHERE: 9433 Brighton Way, Beverly Hills
WHAT: Carlos spins New Wave and Wizard Rock!
WHY: Why not? It's a blast!
WHAT: wut?
BEST BIT? IT'S FREE!!!
Beverly Hills has parking lots all over the place. The drinks are average for a LA bar - cheaper than Hollywood - and the food is pretty awesome.
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December 6th, 2007
08:55 pm - My account will expire soon
So Livejournal thoughtfully sent me an email asking me for money. I sent them this reply instead:
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November 30th, 2007
09:07 am - Not shit stirring but...
Has anyone else noticed that recently (say the last month or so) teh El Jay randomly logs you out? At odd times, like moving from my journal to my friends page I'll notice that no one's posted anything locked - which is quite odd for you guys, you're a secretive lot ;) - only to discover that no, El Jay has expired my log in. Despite having set my preferences to always logged in.
Then of course I have to re-log in, which is of course on a page with adverts.
Is anyone else experiencing this issue?
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